Saturday, June 4, 2011

Honoring a Dead Father on Father's Day

 I've noticed that this post has been  very popular and decided to update it by saying to all those who have lost a father, a brother, a stepfather, a grandfather - you're not alone. Here are also some ideas to remember all loved ones Every Day And, if you're interested, you can light a candle in someone's memory: Here

And I also would like to hear from you. What would you give or say to your father at any time of year? What is your favorite memory of him? Please post a comment below.

When I was 11, my father died in an automobile accident. When each Father's Day came, I would find myself depressed and wondering why other kids still had fathers while I lost mine.

Losing your father can be devastating, especially if you were close to him. You will always miss him, but over the years you will find a way to cope with your loss, and the pain you feel initially with turn into a gentle sadness. He will live on in your memories and in your heart. Every year will bring days when you feel your loss more keenly, such as his birthday, the anniversary of his demise, and of course Father’s Day. Just because he is dead does not mean that you have to stop honoring your dad on this special day. You can start a tradition or find different ways to think of him each year. Here are a few suggestions:

* Write your dad a letter.

Tell him what has been happening in your life. Share family news. Find local, national, or global events that would have been of interest to him. Tell him jokes he would have appreciated. Also write about your feelings. Let him know how much you miss him, how you are coping, or even that you are angry at him for leaving you. This may feel strange and possibly slightly creepy at first, but once you get started you will find that your pen is flying across the paper. For just a few moments you will forget that he will not ever read your lines.

When you are done, you could put the letter in a special box and keep adding a new letter each year. You could also burn the letter and imagine that your words will reach him on a trail of smoke.

*Visit your dad’s grave.

Bring a folding chair or a blanket and sit for a while. Talk to him as if he was still alive. Imagine his answers in your mind. You can leave flowers, maybe a ribbon or a balloon, or a stone if you are Jewish. You could bring a picnic lunch and share it with him by pouring a small quantity onto his grave. Make sure to clean up after yourself when you leave.

* Look at photographs and letters.

This is a wonderful way to tell your children about their grandfather. They may have been too young when he died to remember him very well. If they did know him, encourage them to talk about the pictures and share the things that they remember about him.

* Invite friends and family.

Another good way to share your memories is to invite your dad’s friends to a family gathering. This may be a formal dinner, a backyard barbeque, or an informal get-together with snacks and drinks. Take turns telling stories about your dad. You and the other guests will learn about the impact your dad had on other people’s lives. You will realize that you are not the only person who misses him. Especially if he has not been gone for long, you will be able to share your grief and to gain emotional support.

* Go to your dad’s favorite place.

If your dad had a special place he liked to go to, visit that place. You will feel closer to him, no matter if it is a beach, a cabin in the woods, a park bench, a museum, the opera, or his front porch. Spend some time trying to see the place with his eyes, to figure out what exactly fascinated him about it. Let your mind wander for a while. Think about the things he may have told you about this place. You will go home that evening with a gentle smile on your face.


* Do his favorite thing.

Maybe your dad liked to go fishing. Maybe he loved rodeos. Maybe his passion was musical theater. Maybe he was an artist. Maybe he collected stamps. Spend the day doing whatever it was that gave your dad the most pleasure in life. While it may not be something that you would normally spend your day doing, it will bring you closer to him.

* Have a moment of silence.

Sometime during the day, take a few minutes to stand respectfully, without talking or other distractions. Picture your dad in your mind, think about all the good things he did in life and honor him for them.

Whatever you choose to do on this special day should be something that will help you to focus on your dad and honor his memory. Concentrate on celebrating his life, rather than mourning his death.


Some Father's Day Quotes for a Deceased Dad

Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal. ~From a headstone in Ireland

To live in hearts we leave behind
Is not to die.
~Thomas Campbell, "Hallowed Ground"

He who has gone, so we but cherish his memory, abides with us, more potent, nay, more present than the living man. ~Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Life is eternal, and love is immortal,
and death is only a horizon;
and a horizon is nothing save the limit of our sight.
~Rossiter Worthington Raymond

Unable are the loved to die. For love is immortality. ~Emily Dickinson


Quotes for any Father


My father used to play with my brother and me in the yard. Mother would come out and say, "You're tearing up the grass." "We're not raising grass," Dad would reply. "We're raising boys." ~Harmon Killebrew

He didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it. ~Clarence Budington Kelland

A truly rich man is one whose children run into his arms when his hands are empty. ~Author Unknown

Father! - to God himself we cannot give a holier name. ~William Wordsworth

Love and fear. Everything the father of a family says must inspire one or the other. ~Joseph Joubert

One father is more than a hundred Schoolemasters. ~George Herbert, Outlandish Proverbs, 1640

Blessed indeed is the man who hears many gentle voices call him father! ~Lydia M. Child, Philothea: A Romance, 1836

Sometimes the poorest man leaves his children the richest inheritance. ~Ruth E. Renkel

A father carries pictures where his money used to be. ~Author Unknown

The father who would taste the essence of his fatherhood must turn back from the plane of his experience, take with him the fruits of his journey and begin again beside his child, marching step by step over the same old road. ~Angelo Patri

It is much easier to become a father than to be one. ~Kent Nerburn, Letters to My Son: Reflections on Becoming a Man, 1994

The words that a father speaks to his children in the privacy of home are not heard by the world, but, as in whispering-galleries, they are clearly heard at the end and by posterity. ~Jean Paul Richter

Any man can be a father. It takes someone special to be a dad. ~Author Unknown

The greatest gift I ever had Came from God; I call him Dad!
~Author Unknown

I love my father as the stars - he's a bright shining example and a happy twinkling in my heart. ~Adabella Radici

Dad, your guiding hand on my shoulder will remain with me forever. ~Author Unknown

Old as she was, she still missed her daddy sometimes. ~Gloria Naylor

There's something like a line of gold thread running through a man's words when he talks to his daughter, and gradually over the years it gets to be long enough for you to pick up in your hands and weave into a cloth that feels like love itself. ~John Gregory Brown, Decorations in a Ruined Cemetery, 1994

There are three stages of a man's life: He believes in Santa Claus, he doesn't believe in Santa Claus, he is Santa Claus. ~Author Unknown

Fatherhood is pretending the present you love most is soap-on-a-rope. ~Bill Cosby

When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much he had learned in seven years. ~Mark Twain, "Old Times on the Mississippi" Atlantic Monthly, 1874

And to my deceased father - Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal. - From a headstone in Ireland

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58 comments:

  1. I am so sorry that you lost your father when you were so young. I was much older - over 30 - but your post has really helped me. I especially like your idea of writing a letter.

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  2. Thanks, Viola,

    I'm sorry that you lost your father too. I'm glad if the post helped.

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  3. God called you dad home for you know God always takes the best, sorry for your pain, I lost my dad on Veteran.s Day 2003, at 84 yrs of age, what an Honer to have him taken from all of his children,all 9 of us, he severed his country,on WW2,On Omamha beach and survived,so we were blessed when he passed away on a day none of us or the world will forget

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  4. Thanks for sharing. You must have been very proud of your Dad. And I think he would have chosen that particular day himself, if he could.

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  5. I also lost my father. I was 12years old. And Im 20 now. And it's still very hard coping with the loss on Father's Day. I've written letters, I go to his grave at least once a month, every 4th of the month because his birthday was april 4th, and sadly, i'm still having a difficult time coping.

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  6. i lost my father when i was 16 , im 20 now but still find it really
    difficult, i think it really helps to write about him in some form, thanks for this!
    to all the world you were but one, but to us who knew and loved you, you were the world.

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  7. My father died May 23, 2010. He served in WWII prior to serving 22 years for the US State Department as a Foreign Service Officer. He died after a 9 month "guardianship". He was happy, very healthy for his age and was enjoying his "Golden Years". His only son (first born) was worried that "was spending all of HIS inheritance on himself" and petitioned to control his money as well as have him put in a "home". Both my father and I objected to this seemingly outragous petition. Neither one of us had any input in the court sanctioned "order" (decided in a 4 minute ex parte meeting) which resulted in an "incarceration" like existence where he was deprived him of all his Civil Rights. With the help of the Oregon Department of Veterans Affairs he died a broken and very sad man. He died not by his own choice but at the decision of others. Please see the website NASGA (National Association to Stop Guardian Abuse) and read the hundreds of similar stories... he died MAy 23, 2010. His birthday was June 6, and now another Fathers Day. God Bless you Dad. God Bless all of our fathers. Peace.....

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  8. I lost my dad when I was 7 to suicide. I'm 14 now and he's been gone for half of my life but it doesn't get any easier knowing he's never coming back. If he lived a better life before dying I bet it would have been easier letting the pain go but he didn't have the chance to change. His life and death has effected my whole life so much and everything I do today

    I love you daddy your forever in my heart <3

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    1. Omg I feel for you! My dad took his life when I was 8... I am now 30, I am not sure if the pain is going away or im coping with it better.. one word of advice, do not hold your feelings in... do not be scared to cry or show emotions towards this unfortunate event in your life.. and MOST of all do not blame yourself for his actions! Love yourself and cherish the good memories you have of him! YOLO...

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  9. I miss my dad's (father and father-in-law) My father said to me "see what I did for you" still do not know what he meant. He never did make a couple sentence he told me had a fifth grade education. But he has travel the U.S. more than most people driving to Keys of Florida, to N.Y., TN, Canada, etc. Wow, he accomplished more than many men; died at 80. Father-in-law he would talk too but often I think he was misunderstood too; wonder if men ever journalized in school how they felt then maybe they would talk about things easier. So what is a father and daughter suppose to do together? I often wondered. Maybe we never accomplished it all and maybe we did. I still think a dad should go to church with their daughter or daughter-in-law often. Mine did not. I learned many things from my dad's and somethingz I wish not of but better from them than someone else I guess.

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  10. I lost my dad June 24, 2011. I have never experienced something that could hurt so bad. I never thought I could miss someone so much. I now know how it feels to lose a parent. So many things I wish I would have said. I wish I would have went to see him more. I cry almost every night asking God for strength to get thru this but I know God is my strength right now & he will pull me thru this hard time. Dad I miss you & Love you! But I know I have a Guardian Angel looking over me now!

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    1. I lost my dad in 08 I jus wanted to say I feel exactly like u do... I shlda seen him more but we loved eachother ... That what u said u felt touched me & made me cry :( rest easy rip

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  11. Eu perdi meu pai 07 de setembro de 2011 Eu nunca experimentei algo que poderia ferir tão ruim. I never thought I could miss someone so much. Eu nunca pensei que poderia perder alguém tanto assim. I now know how it feels to lose a parent. Agora eu sei como se sente ao perder um pai. Eu sinto falta do meu pai

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  12. I know how it feels to lose a father young. I lost mine only going on two years now and hell it feels like my lifetime. My father committed suicide on July 17, 2010 only 3 days after his 35th Birthday and only 5 days after i turned 15. He committed suicide in front of my age 9 at the time little brother. The thing about this story is that he didn't really commit suicide. He was about to leave to come back home to his wife and kids after he patched things up wife my mom, and his crazy girlfriend shot him.. My little brother still to this day has days where he cries and doesn't know what to do. I am left to be a 16 year old big brother who is forced into a dad roll. I'm not telling the world this to show how bad my story is. Because life isn't about getting an umbrella out when it drizzles, life is about learning to dance when it rains. Too this day not a single second goes by that a memory of my father isn't in my mind. He was a good man who knew that he had mistakes, but he never once gave up on his sons. When he wasn't working to give us food he was with my little brother at the kitchen table helping him with his homework. And when he wasn't there he was with me in the yard playing catch telling me about music and how i could be great with my rapping skills. And one of the best memories I have of my dad is when he would have his bar-b-q's. Me and him would sit there around the fire and make cheers to the battles we won, and let go of the battles we lost. He was the one guy who knew me without a shadow of a doubt. He understood me like the worlds best father should. He lived his life simple free of hate, and he believed in about 4 things. He believed in Jesus who he thanked every night for giving him us. He believed in us no matter what obstacle he knew somehow someway i could make it through. He believed in music, because not only was it his passion, but he played drums and was one of the best drummers i will ever here in this world. His last belief was Love. He believed in me and is the reason that today i have the girl who i chased after for 5 years. He told me if i truly loved her i would give all my being for her and no matter how dark things seemed, i needed to let her be my light. He is the reason i continue day to day. My fathers name was Russell, and he showed me life through a set of eyes that is oh so humble. I miss him so so much. I am Thomas Dodson, age 16 and I believe i have sent my message to the world.

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    1. Thank you so much Thomas for sharing, you are amazing just like your Father. :)

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  13. I lost my dad on October 28, 2011. Its not even been a month and i really dont know what to do.. if somewhere he is there.. all i want him to know is he is the one person i have loved so much. all my life i ve done things to make him proud of myself. my only goal in life was to make him proud of me. My dad was a true hero in life. I do sleep wondering why did this happen. and wake up thinking why isnt he waking me up. my dad is my role model. and yes.. he was a living legend. not only me alone... but all his friends, colleagues, relatives have gotten a hit. he touched so many lives.. i am so proud to be a daughter of such a man. there are moments when i break down.. and hear him tell me like he always did.. dont cry, learn to fight the situation. he has been my professional guide, alarm clock, best friend, leg puller, and giggest of a security net. love you dad. will always make you proud.. just dnt knw how to deal with life without u.. but like u said.. crying is not a solution.

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  14. Thomas Dodson - your Father is smiling down from Heaven and would be very proud of you right now. There is so much anger and sadness in my children that I know they remember their father the way that you describe yours (and that is good) I am so proud of how you expressed everything you wrote. Be the light for your brother. Remind him daily about Daddy so that he NEVER forgets. Through all that you have been through Thomas, through all of the horror and the pain.....show your little brother by example what you learned from your Beloved father. Reflect only the good and positive. God bless your family.

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  15. Adam Budge (Son of Alain Budge)December 7, 2011 at 11:20 AM

    I lost my dad February 4th 2011 to a motorcycle accident. That day was and always will be the worst day of my life. My dad is my best friend, hero, example, he is my everything. No son ever had a better father. He did everything for his family and he was taken so suddenly from us. I miss him everyday and I will miss him forever until we are together again. I have so many questions that I am looking for answers to. The main question is will I be with my father again? I look for him everyday and ask him to answer my questions. I love you forever dad. You are my personal hero and savior. I promise I will never forget all that you have taught me. Please be with me always and give me strength because I can't make it without you.

    Love your son,

    Adam

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  16. I lost my dad when I was 16 to cancer,I'm now 39 and married with three beautiful children, I think the years get harder .. knowing that he would of got on so well with my Husband or going to a footy game with my older son .. just watching my children grow.. how I wish he was still around,I will never forget seeing him for the last time in his hospital bed, he said hello as I walked in the room then fell asleep until he passed away, I will always live with the fact that I didnt say how much I loved him there and then

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  17. Tracy,
    I lost my dad when i was jus 1 month baby, in an accident..now i'm 21 years old..i miss him so much.. its very painful when i think about him..i'm only daughter to my parents..my mom has put all her efforts for my life nd she's great..i love my mom nd dad..but i miss my dad sooo much..it pains when i think, i lost him..during the important times of my life i miss him so much..from my childhood, i used to see my friends happy with their family.. but i dont ve dad..i used to feel depressed..nd cry in private and hide my feelings from others..i'm missing a wonderful relation in this world..life would be better if had had been with me..if someone new, asks about my family, i feel painful to say that i dont have father..right from my childhood ive been suffering that i miss my wonderful father..Sheri Mam, Thanks for sharing this post..it helped a lot..

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  18. Thank all of you for sharing your stories. For those that would like to light a candle in a father's name or any relative or friend, or would just like to remember him/her this holiday season, please see my post here. http://t.co/ekEeeRpx

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  19. Tracy,
    "Light a candle" is really a great app.. i had lit a candle for my dad.. after that i feel much better and satisfied..thanks Sheri Mam

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  20. No man, greater than my dad, has ever walked the surface of this earth. I love you papa.. you have always taken care of us. now its time for you to relax and let me take care of the beautiful family you built. I promise you I wont ever let you down. and when i meet you at the other side of life... i know you'd hug me again

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  21. I was almost 2 when my dad died... I have this saying tattooed on my ribs for him..."If there ever comes a day when we can't be together keep me in your heart, I'll stay there forever"

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  22. Nancy
    I lost my Dad at the age of 31 and never expected it to be this difficult to get through, I'm just grateful that I got to be part of your life. I know you are no longer in pain and suffering but you were taken away from us too soon, I know you are in heaven watching over your family, you will always remain close to my heart and never be forgotten. R.I.P …Till we meet again. I love you DAD.

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  23. It's hard enough to write a piece of paper with your life in it..
    It's really hard to write a comment.
    It's hard enough to live this life with out you'r father..

    My father died when i was at school i was at the 2sec grade i was only 6.5 years old, and that day i remember just like today.. my grand father came at the class and he took me out, on the way home he told me something that i didn't want to hear.. he said : Almir ( <- my name ) you'r father its kind of sick
    he got shoot from someone, he told me that he will be alright.. but he was dead.. he told me to be strong.. and that im the man now.. i got to run the house now its my show.. i didn't know what to do
    i was only 6 i was so happy till the day he died.. since he went away i don't have a smile on my face..
    im not happy like i use to be.. im not the same like i use to be.. im 21 years old almost 22 now.. im married now i have a beautiful wife.. and im trying to make her happy cuz i never was one...

    Life goes by day by day its another day with out my father..
    I may be 21 years old or 80 years old i still have the same hart just like when i was 6..

    Ill always miss my father.. and i wish he was here tonight !!!

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    1. Oh, I am so sorry Almiri, I understand how you feel. It feels like your light has been taken and you have an empty dark whole where that light used to shine. I pray that we find our light and can one day be happy again. It is truly amazing how much we love our Fathers. Know that he is with you today. <3

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  24. my father's name is david and he passed away feb 2011.and he to was the bestest father, best friend,in the world.he was a healthy man only 62 years young. i gave my mom and dad a hug and kiss goodnight and it was the last night i had with him.he went to sleep and never woke up he took a heart attack but he didnt even no it..ill never forget that morning, and for a long time i blamed myself for not getting him on the floor quick enough to do c.p.r i never prayed so hard as i did in that moment.it would of been great if I saved him and i was the hero and i had my dad for years to come. but it didnt turn out that way.out of all my friends my dad was the biggest family man i new, and he was a dad to all that i new. he cried at sad movies or happy occations.he new all and could build or fix anything.i was 28 when he left here,and he lives threw me now and my family.he taught me so much about life, what was important and what wasnt worth my time, but the best thing that he taught me was love..how to love, how to be loved and if you are surrounded with people who love you then your the richest person in the world...i miss my dad dearly kisses to heaven.
    Forever goodnight..

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  25. I was 10 years old when my dad passed away. My dad was the coolest dad ever! Even tho I only got to spend a short time of my life with him, I know how much he loved me and I loved him so much. I am so proud to be his daughter. He went through so much at a young age but you would have never known it. Before he passed he was very sick. When I was 8 he had a heart transplant and was well for about a year after. Then he got pneumonia and his new heart could not fight it off. I miss him everyday and I know I will see him again someday. I believe everything happens for a reason and I have gained a respect for life and the strength to go on no matter what. Thank you, It's so nice to have a place to share with others who know what I've gone through.

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  26. I found this and saved it to my Favourites.... thank you everyone for sharing... I lost my dad two weeks ago.
    It's still very raw... but I will keep following...

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  27. Thank You...I was shopping in my Base Exchange today for B-Day cards and they have the Father's Day cards out and it made me shudder and loose focus for a moment. I lost my father in January 2011 and mourn him to this day. I didn't understand him until I was in my thirties and when he passed it left a hole in my life, but it helps knowing that he lives on in my memory and everything I do.

    Thank You

    USAF / MSgt

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  28. six years ago I lost both my parents. They died within three weeks of each other!! Since then I feel as if a large chunk of goodness has gone from my life. I still miss them dearly!!!! I was lucky in that I got to tell them that I loved them and would miss them before they died and spent lovely time before they died but since then things have been tough!!bu what I really don't like is that I was very close to my father. During his life he was a doctor and extremely kind to everyone. He never charged a lot of people and would never turn anyone away. My mother was a similar character. She was a nurse. But the most hurtful thing has been my relatives who he never turned away during their hard times and always had compassion for them. During his latter years he had a drink problem and since he died they have referred to him as the alcoholic.Sometimes I feel sick in my stomach really really hurt and heartbroken to hear him referred to like this. My older sister said during her childhood my parents always argued. It was also really hurtful to hear her memories as I had many happy times with my parents. During my father's latter years I often lifted him from the ground as he fell a lot and after he died I had to have a back operation to sort out two prolapse discs, but still I feel anyone who loves someone would do the same. My father was always there for me and I wanted to be there for him in his hours of need. Sometimes I get relief from the fact that I was lucky to have these people in my life but other times I feel so alone and lost.

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  29. My husband passed away on January 19th of this year leaving behing one child and two step-children (who he treated as his own). It has been extrememly difficult to continue celebrating holidays without him physically here. There is a void in our life that will never be filled. My children are only 13, 10 and 3 years old. My heart breaks for them each day as I see their pain. No more father-son picnics or baseball games, no more father-daughter dances...A mother's job is to protect her children but I can not heal the pain this is causing them. They are amazing and what is truly keeping me going. I truly hope they know that he will always be with them, watching over them...as proud of them in heaven as he was on earth. I feel everyone's pain and am thankful that there is a site to help with events this hard...Thanks...

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  30. My dad died April 9th 2009, when I was fifteen. In the past 3 years, he missed my high school graduation, getting my license, the start of university, my sweet 16, 18th birthday and so much more. I watched my friend's dance with their dad's at grad banquet, throw parties, buy cars and share their first legal beer together. It never really sets in that it's never gonna happen. My brother had my dad for all those events in his life, and wasn't as close to him as I did. "You look just like your dad, oh my god" was what I heard growing up, and now I have to see it every day in the mirror and it hurts.

    I got a tattoo in the end of march of the celtic symbol for father and daughter, even though I'm so far from irish. If you read the story from the link, it's amazing and it feels good to think of him as a part of me rather than a horrible reminder that he's gone

    http://www.allaboutcelticsymbols.com/Celtic-Symbols-Family.xhtml

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  31. I still remember when my dad took us for a walk in the woods and yelled bear! We all took off running and he started laughing. It is nice to see your page here.

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  32. This is beautiful. Thank you for sharing this. My husband passed away in the summer of 2011 when my daughter was 10. It is such a hard age to begin with but to have to deal with such a loss is unbearable. As the previous post said, the my daughter is what keeps me going. It has been so hard on my daughter but thank God we have each other to lean on. I am sorry for your loss and so glad you can go on to be inspiration to us all.

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  33. Thank you for this site and the comments. My name is K and im 24 yrs old and I lost my father February 1st 2012 to suicide. I struggle everyday and pray for someone to relate or just to talk to who has lost a parent and can understand what I'm going thru. So thank you for letting me know I'm not alone.
    <3 K

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  34. I lost my dad when i was 6years, i hardly remember him... My younger sis was just 3years, when my mum would ask us if we remembered him........ We would say yes, even though we dont cause we dont wanna hurt my mums feelings, we would lay down next to his grave and watch the stars with him and i teach my sis some songs which my dad loves, and we would sing it to him, i just wish he was there watching us grow And even stay to experienced all.... And i even wish if he could come back just once, to sing me and my sister off to sleep.

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  35. I lost my dad on January 22 2003. I was 15 and just finished my science exam. He was suppose to pick me up and go for pancakes.He died of a massive heart attack on his way for coffee with my mom. That was over 9 years ago but it feels like yesterday.The pain will never go away, you just learn to live with it. I wish I could just give him one more hug and tell him how much I love him.

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  36. Thank you this has helped me dearly. I was only three and I didnt know what road to take the road to a sucessful life or the dark road to hell but know I know that I should take the road to a bright, sucessful life.

    P.S. I wish I could just tell my dear father and friend Robert.John.Anderson how much I love him and that I miss him dearly...

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  37. . If your father is alive go hug him for me. I was 26 when he died. Now I'm 28 and still bawling my eyes out. I never knew the depths of sorrow until I lost my dad people tend not to understand, so many things eking me of him, I'll be in a store and a song will play, or a movie on tv or even someone who resembles him can stop me in my tracks. Well I don't care what anyone thinks, my best help is a boy who has lost his mum, HE understands the pain of a girl who lost her dad. Why all happy moments are now bittersweet.. Love to all stay strong

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  38. I lost my father when I was 11 years old. I am currently 17 years old. this site gave me many good quotes and reminded me of many good memories I had with my father. My father will never see me graduate, be at any of my siblings' weddings or my own. Ive had a very hard time dealing with his loss, but I have become a very strong person about it. thank you for sharing this site with all of us. It means the world too me. thank you so much. When ever you are in a hard spot in live, always remember someone out there loves you. I am so sorry about your loss and I wish you too have an AMAZING life after all of this chaos. RIP to everyone was not acknowledged because they are not rich or famous. We will always have thoes we love that we lost in our hearts. Just stay strong(:

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  39. My father passed when I was 3 years old I am now 20 and it still hurts as if it had only happened yesterday but I relay on God for strengtand joy

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  40. I was 14, it was Feb. 13 2005. My father and i got into a fight.. I lied and snuck out he caught me coming back into the house late in the morning, we yelled for a while before I walked away and told him I hated him. I got up for school the next day and went to the bus stop. Had a great valentines day at school. I got dropped of at the bus stop after school and I walked home. I open the door to our mud room (closed in porch) and find my father face down at the bottom of the steep 6 step incline. Naturally i try to turn him over and see if he was okay, his blue lifeless face told me he was not. My father suffered from a massive stroke while taking the trash out and fell down the steps to his horrific death. I still think about the last thing I said to him was that I hated him. I tell him all the time that wasn't true. I will always carry that burden. But I will always be that much stronger of a person. I'll always remember the good times and what he taught me while I was young, it may not have meant much then but it means the world now. God needed him more then we did and he got one of the best.

    I find myself sitting here again this time of year not sleeping and stressed out, mind racing, questions with no answers, memories raging. There has to be an easier way. I've never posted out like this and I'm hoping this will help me for the coming day. Thank you everyone for your comments to this post. God bless you all. Live and let God.

    RIP DAD. 2-14-05 I LOVE YOU.

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  41. "God gave me the greatest gift I ever had,
    i call it dad."

    Thanks for sharing these wonderful fathers day post. From the Philippines, my warmest fathers day greetings to all wonderful dad around the world. You rock!

    Cheers xxxxx
    Pam

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  42. The way I see it on your post, you must have had an awesome father to honor him this way. fathers day still for you to thank him, even if he's not here anymore :)

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  43. Nice post, your Fathers Day Quotes are wonderful. You must have loved your dad very much, as your messages really inspirational.

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    1. Thank all of you for taking the time to share your stories. This post started as a way to honor and remember my father and to say that I believe that loved ones might be gone from our sight, but never from our hearts. This one post has received over 300,000 views, and I am so grateful that so many people have been helped by it.

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  44. it's father's day again, a time to remember the person we lost but a dad's love and memory that lives on. i lost mine when i was 7, and am already over 30... but it still only feels like yesterday. in loving memory

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  45. I lost my dad on January 11,2013 after a two year battle with cancer. I was very close with him and I miss him everyday. The only peace that I get is to know that he and my mom are together in Heaven. This is the first Father's Day without him. It feels weird to me to know that I will not be seeing him or talking to him.

    I love the ideas on this website.

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  46. I am 19 years old,I was 18 when I lost my father due to someone else mistakes in the medical field. I am one of six children, the youngest being 7. My father was missed diagnosed in 2010 with "heart Burn" which later turned out to be stage four lung cancer. I, just like my sibling, mother, my aunt+uncle and other family and friends watched my father slowly die for 18 months until he could not fight anymore. I remember the watching my father take his final breath on February 9,2012 at 4:45pm. That's a day I will never forget. that 18 months I will never forget, even if I was in denial with the situation and the actually reality of this terrible disease that claims millions of lives each year. That year was also my senior year of high school,I know he wanted to be there at my graduation, and he was only in spirit. This pain never goes away.. does it?

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  47. I lost my dad when he was 94 years old. He was a good dad, good provider but really didn't like to take time with his family. It was always work, work, work! That's why it makes it especially hard to cope with the fact that he is now gone.
    He passed away 7 years ago. He came from a poor family and I'm sure my grandpa was the same way. I don't even remember my grandpa doing anything with us kids. Sad!RIP to Dad!

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  48. I may say like others may say we know how you feel. But in all reality everyone feels different with their emotions. I've lost my dad at just 11 years old on the month of my birthday :( and I wish I could just yell out and cry out so loudly so I could sspea to him and tell him how much I have accomplished throughout the years that has passed by. I lost my father in a messed up way. My father was killed by the cops :'( </3 .. I wish every single day that I can hold him kiss him hear his words that he'll tell him. Ask for advice or even just have a daughter and father talk. My father was and still is my role model. Every time I see people with their father I honestly get jealous because I dont have mines with me. My father birthday has just passed on the 11th of November. Which is just a couple of days ago :( .. I dont understand why people will sit and tell us to let go if they dont understand how this heartache feels. But I hope and pray you remain strong and manage to be strong enough to go through all your memories smile at the good times and even shed some tears as you smile. May all our fallen angels rest in paradise ♡

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  49. Its been nearly a year since I lost my dad... he had many issues wnd not alot of help out there for him.he died before his 65 birthday. This will be our first fathers day with out him.rip dad love and miss u so much xxxx

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  50. We all love our father who gives us a great life and make us happy every day...happy fathers day 2014

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  51. I lost my Dad 3 months ago today. He was 74 yrs old. I was so lucky to have had him for 52 years. He had to have emergency surgery on his gallbladder. It was ready to rupture and it was full of infection. He survived the surgery but could not get off the respirator. The infection had spread through his body and with other health issues he had it was too hard for his body to fight it. On March 11,2014 will all of us children and my Mom there he was taken off the machine. He had already slipped into a coma and was in multi organ shutdown. The next 4 days were pure Hell. I prayed everyday " please God be merciful and take him today". Watching his body slowly shut down was agonizing. My sister and I would sit with him at night. We would hold his hands, scratch his head and talk to him. We both did not want him to pass when Mom was there. It was so hard on her. On the 4 th night after being off life support , with me and my sister on each side of Dad holding his hands, he passed away at 4:14 am. He brought me into this world and I had the priveledge of being with him when he had to leave. I was so lucky to have had all the years that I had but it sure doesn't make the parting any easier. I stil cry ( too often) and my poor Mom is just lost. He left such an impression on so many people. He was a kind and gentle giant. (6'4"). He always said there are only 3 things that matter in life. 1. Where you spend eternity. 2. Family. 3. Fishing!! Lol. So I keep fishing to be with his spirit. Time heals all wounds ...so they say..I just wish it were quicker. Happy Fathers Day Dad!! Until we meet again!!! I miss you more than the stars in the sky or sand on the beach.

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  52. This article helped me a lot, I lost my father when I was 16 and I'm 17 now. He committed suicide on July 23 2013 and every day is a struggle for me to even get out of the house. Everyday I wish I could give him a hug and tell him that I love him, I hope this pain will get a little easier to deal with, both of my sisters lost their dad and I have 2 older sisters and we all have the same mom.

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